Mind, Dharma and Grief
Mind,
Dharma and Grief Recovery.
God
did not dumb human beings to this world to suffer. Actually God send
us into this world as highly interconnected beings, in order to enjoy
happiness, which we are unable to perceive and are not aware of.
Healing happens when we are connected to God..
We
are here in this world to do dharma and enjoy the fruit of happiness
delivered by dharma.
Dharma
is any action where both giver and receiver are happy. Means dharma
happens only when others connected to our actions are happy because
of our actions to enjoy happiness.
Therefore
it is the responsibility of every human being to help each other.
The best ways to do dharma is
- By praying for others in our mind
- By giving gratitude to others in our mind
- By blessing others in our mind.
If
we pray for ourselves, it is begging as we are only trying to pull
something without giving out anything which contradicts law of
karma.
Law
of karma states that, we receive what we give in one form or another
form
Thoughts
Thoughts
are energy, thoughts do not belong to us and we receive thoughts by
giving our intend consciously or subconsciously.
Most
of the time we receive our thoughts as per our subconscious intend,
which we call as habbit.
If
we correct our mind consciously for a certain period for receiving
good thoughts, mind will adapt to receiving good thoughts as desired
by us and then subconsciously we give intend for good thoughts and
start receiving good thoughts. Here habit is changed from bad
thoughts to good thoughts thereby becoming a good person. Good
thoughts can only lead us to good things in life.
How
mind operates?
Our
mind is always trying to give happiness to us irrespective of the
result which can be bad or good for us. Please understand thoughts
are energy.
In
order to understand our mind, we focus on the following 2 cases.
In
both cases 1 and 2, the mind makes us happy. This is the real fun.
Mind
does it's job perfectly by making us happy irrespective of the result
whether it is good or bad.
Case
1
A
person likes others happiness and therefore his/her mind focuses on
others happiness always and shows him/her mainly good things
happening to others and skip most cases where others are unhappy. So
he/she experiences happiness in his/her mind most of the time which
is dharma. This results in he/she always thinking and wishing good
for others and self which is again dharma. When he/she experiences
dharma, he/she is giving out dharma and therefore they receive dharma
back as per law of karma. We can confirm that this person is good and
therefore he/she gets back good things always in his/her life and
enjoys happiness. This person is happy deep inside and outside, which
is dharma repeated again and again as a cycle. This is what needs to
be our life as per god's design and therefore this life is good. Once
more than 50% people on earth falls under this case, this world will
become heaven in no time.
Therefore
when we are cheerful, contented, delighted, ecstatic, elated,
glad, joyful, joyous etc. which gives happiness to self and others,
we are doing dharma.
Case
2
A
person likes others unhappiness and therefore his/her mind focuses on
others unhappiness always and shows him/her mainly bad things
happening to others and skip most cases where others are happy. So
he/she experiences unhappiness in his/her mind most of the time which
is adharma (not dharma). This results in he/she always thinking and
wishing bad for others and self which is again adharma. When he/she
experiences adharma, he/she is giving out adharma and therefore they
receive adharma back as per law of karma. We can confirm that this
person is bad and therefore he/she gets back bad things always in
his/her life and suffers unhappiness. This person is happy deep
inside while suffering unhappiness. Therefore he/she need to suffer
in his life for him/her to be happy inside, which is adharma
repeated again and again as a vicious cycle. This is what needs to be
avoided in our life as per god's design and therefore this life is
bad. As more than 50% people on earth falls under this case, most
people in this world are suffering now. People need to constantly
watch his/her own mind so that he/she is aware of the quality of
thoughts received by his/her mind and then consciously correct their
bad thoughts by giving auto suggestions like
“I
need only good thoughts”
“ I
am happy only when others are happy”
“ I
need to see only others happiness”
“ God
bless everybody” etc. etc.
If
any bad thoughts are received by our mind, we need to say sorry in
our mind to our mind so that our mind immediately understands that
this person is only interested in the good of others and self. Repeat
this until your mind becomes good and you become a good person as
designed by god,
One
mind can only be corrected by the same mind. Means we can correct
only our mind and we have no right to correct others mind, but we can
only explain the truth logically so that others correct their minds
based on their logic. In order to explain truth to others, first we
need to have a good mind as explained in case1.
Going
by case2, we can confirm that all synonyms of grief like bereavement,
sadness, sorrow, pain, heartache, depression, despair, discomfort,
misery etc. are all adharmas and therefore need to be avoided to the
maximum extent possible. Do not recall all these feelings again and
again as this will only give back more of what you think and feel as
per law of karma.
If
any bad thoughts comes to you, you immediately divert your thoughts
by thinking some good things happened or you need to happen in your
life.
Never
oppose any bad thoughts as opposing bad thoughts will give those
thoughts more power and it will give more bad thoughts back to you.
Sharing
Grief
What
happens when we share grief?
Type
1
If
a second person give an intend to share wholeheartedly the grief of
first person. The second person receives the grief of the first
person and experiences the grief. Here instead of the first person
experience his/her grief, the second person experiences it. Only a
transfer of grief happened. Grief is not removed. There is no dharma
here as the second person is experiencing grief and therefore not
happy.
In
dharma, both the giver and receiver need to be happy.
Type
2
In
most cases, immediately after the second person absorbs the grief and
the first person is free from grief, the first person recalls the
incident which caused the grief and creates the full original amount
of grief back. So here both persons are suffering from grief
therefore adharma and a totally useless suffering for the second
person
Type
3
The
second person is happy deep inside that one more person is suffering
grief.
As
the second person is acting instead of sharing the first persons
grief wholeheartedly, no sharing of grief happens and there is no
reduction in the level of grief in the first person. The first person
may think that his/her grief is shared by another person and may
perceive a little reduction in the level of grief even though no
reduction in grief happened to the first person. This kind of
illusion happens in most cases of grief sharing.
How
to remove grief?
Mainly
there are 2 effective ways of removing grief.
Option
1
Get
the grief healed by a genuine healer. Here the healer connects the
grieving person to god allowing god to remove the grief as we are
normally disconnected from god and a genuine healer is required to
provide connection to god. Here the grieving person is not required
to do anything on his/her self other than seeing the healer. Free
online grief healing helps here. No need to spend money, only skype
chat with healer required.
In
this case, the grieving person can recollect the incident of grief
after proper grief healing, only the thoughts will come without any
feelings of grief. Means the grief is removed. Thoughts with bad
feelings (emotions) are harmful, whereas emotions without bad
feelings (thoughts) are harmless.
Emotion=
thought+feeling
Thought=emotion-feeling
Option
2
Get
the grief healed by a genuine counselor. Here the counselor provides
logical explanations and convinces the grieving person the ways and
means to go back to happy mood by dumping out the feelings of grief.
Here it becomes the job of the grieving person to understand and
implement what the counselor told him. Each and every person will
take his own time period based on his level of understanding and time
devoted by him/her to heal him/her self.
Please
send email request for grief recovery to: curebyhealing@gmail.com.
If
no reply in 2 days, pls send reminders.
God
Bless
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